"I Just Want to Feel Everything"

- Fiona Apple, “Every single night.” This lyric kept rattling around in my head, because it feels right (feeling more is healthy!) but most emotions are bad.

Most emotions are bad

I remember hearing that we basically only have happiness, sadness, fear, anger, surprise, and disgust. (Not sure if this is true; I think it came from Paul Ekman? Who is somehow amazing at getting into airport nonfiction books and google results, so I don’t trust him so much. Still, googling “emotion wheels” gives a variety of takes on “basic emotions” that are usually about 2/3 negative.)


I know, I know, who’s to say what’s good or bad. But I’m going to say that if you could only experience sadness, anger, fear, and disgust for the rest of your life, you probably wouldn’t consider that a life worth living. (And surprise wouldn’t really help much.)

“Feeling more” is good

I have no proof for this; I am just hand waving. But when’s the last time any kind of healing involved “feeling less”? Closing your heart is generally a bad thing, right?

How to square these, a few ideas

Another timely post

I just happened on this guy’s experience with not feeling that seems related here. Oh, and for what it’s worth, I’m not actually arguing that I should turn down the volume on my feelings (if that were even possible); I’m just curious why I don’t believe that I should!

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